How did I get to the age I am being so useless when it comes to the opposite sex?
Probably because I have suffered from lack of confidence for pretty much the whole of my life in that department, stemming from being overweight and picked on at school which just transferred to the love life and kind of stuck. Have long enjoyed bags of confidence in other areas of my life.
Thus my dilemma last night. Went to cinema with Sean. This must be our 5/6th date. He still has not kissed me! Does this mean he doesn't like me? He wants to see me again... Should I kiss him? I don't know if I can!
On the other hand, am kind of glad it's not moving at all fast as I cannot clear Tom out of my head. Of course he is not going to clear out while we are being 'friends' - so should I knock it on the head and not be friends and not have him in my life, as despite the friends thing I find myself liking him more every time I see him.
I also like Sean more each time - but the two of them are such polar opposites... Oh heck!
Hi,
You sound a bit like me, I know on the face of it I seam like a complete weirdo for being 33 and a virgin, and for not having had any sort of a relationship until I was 32, but I had issues like you from the past and just sort of moved on with life without relationships. It s so hard to have confidence when you feel so unsecure about that side of things, more so becasue you have sucess and confidence in other areas of your life.
What can I say, maybe he is just as shy.
The first kiss is such a difficult step, I found it may come with just a peck good bye, that may be it for that occasion but then it may open doors, or maybe it will lead to a good snog.
I'm not sure you can read too much into the fact you have not kissed yet, if he did not like you why would he still be going out with you? If I am right you met from a dating site so you are both up for a relationship of some sort.
It is probably just about breaking the ice a little.
Just remember for a kind sensitive bloke it can be just as hard if bot harder making the first move, being a guy can put all the mental pressure on you to take the initive but if you are no good at reading signals or unsure you don't want ot make the move and be rejected or look a fool.
You have to give off some signals to let him know your not going to reject him.
Much easier to write about it on sombodys elses blog than do it.
I wish you luck, choice is a puzzeling thing, and can lead to the loss of both, partly why I am still single now.
Just think of it as only a little kiss, hey think what I'm going to have to overcome one day!
VB.